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Counseling Theories for Difficult Students: Wall With A Purpose

6/14/2016

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Working with Difficult Students- a wall with a purpose. Using William Glasser's theory to make a breakthrough. www.counselorup.com
If you've read my post on solution focused on a clipboard, you know that I like to create tools that make my life easier. I also like things to look nice and be useful at the same time. To meet both needs, I created the Map It Out wall for your school counseling office. To explore, I am going to walk through the process with a real student we'll call Corey. 

My Achievement Plan

Corey was a fourth grader when I began this work with him. He was a really tough kid who struggled both with his behavior and with understanding empathy. He often hurt others and seemed not to care. When reading stories about sad things, he couldn't understand why the character would act against their own best interest. I had known Corey since he was a Kindergartener and we had worked closely together all those years. However, to be honest, Corey really wasn't doing well. It seemed like all the other things I tried had failed - behavior contracts, solution focused, understanding feelings, work with his family, and many more ideas. I hadn't tried the Achievement Plan because I didn't think he cared enough to work on his behavior. In fact, I think this is why solution focused wasn't very effective for him, I couldn't get the hook he needed in order to try. 

The Five Wants

Working with Difficult Students- a wall with a purpose. Using William Glasser's theory to make a breakthrough. www.counselorup.com
The MAP It Out plan is based on the work of William Glasser. In this theory, humans have 5 wants:
o Survival – basic needs & safety
o Belonging – fitting in, having a tribe, connecting
o Power – significance, competence, ability to achieve your goals
o Freedom – free choice, to do what we want
o Fun – FUN

I thought I knew Corey so well. I just knew he would say Power. He was a "power and control" kind of kid, or so I thought. To my utmost surprise, he chose Belonging. I was shocked! I never thought he cared enough about others to want to be connected to them. Clearly, I had already made a huge breakthrough. Now I had the hook I needed to encourage Corey to work towards change. 

What's Happening Now

Working with Difficult Students- a wall with a purpose. Using William Glasser's theory to make a breakthrough. www.counselorup.com
Once Corey had a reason to try to change, we could have a really honest conversation about the choices he was making now. Without commentary, I wrote what he said (he didn't want to do the writing) on a post it and divided them between "It's Working" and "It's Not Working." This can be a challenging concept to think about. If I want to belong and I tease others because I think it's funny - is it working? It's might be working in amusing me but not in helping me to belong. This part of the process is important and should not be rushed. 

How Hard Are You Willing to Work?

Working with Difficult Students- a wall with a purpose. Using William Glasser's theory to make a breakthrough. www.counselorup.com
As we all know, wanting an outcome and working for an outcome are not the same thing. It was important to assess how hard Corey was willing to work. If he's not willing to do "Whatever It Takes," it might be hard to see change. Conversely, if he says he's willing to work hard but doesn't, he's accountable to himself and his actions. I used this part of the tool to explore his feelings about the process of change. Change is hard and the effort check is a great way to get a feel for where your student is.

What's The Plan

Working with Difficult Students- a wall with a purpose. Using William Glasser's theory to make a breakthrough. www.counselorup.com
Working together, Corey and I created a SMART Goal and Plan for his behavior. He was able to identify exact things that he could do to work on belonging in his classroom. In his case, he chose to stop teasing others. He thought he was funny but no one else did. Not a great way to belong.

Putting It Together

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Here's where I created a great tool that I wish I had with Corey! On this page, the student (or counselor) can write down what they talk about to keep track of their plans over time. It would work great to staple the planning pages in a folder each week. The stickies can be placed on the actual page when your conversation is done. 

So what happened with Corey? He got better. It's been years since I've seen him last but I imagine that his work is not done. Without a doubt, his time at our school was better because of the work that we did. His behavior referrals went down, he was involved in fewer bullying incidents, and I really do think that he began to feel like he belonged. 

What's your success story? How do you break through with students who are tough to reach? We can all expand our tools of the trade. You can get the entire bulletin board and planning page over on TPT. 
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9 Comments
Madison
6/22/2016 10:52:36 am

Thank you for sharing this! I am glad to hear Corey got better :) I just finished my school counseling program and have been hired as an elementary counselor for a school that serves neighborhood as well as behavior kids. This will be a helpful resource for the coming year!

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Rebecca Atkins
6/22/2016 11:31:19 am

Congrats on your new job! Good luck in your first year :)

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Amy Pinsky
7/30/2016 05:05:07 am

I love things that are functional and pretty! What a clever idea! Thank you so much for sharing!

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Rebecca Atkins link
7/30/2016 06:05:04 am

Thanks! Pretty and functional is basically my jam.

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Kandice
8/18/2016 02:49:29 pm

Love this and can't wait to use. Thanks for sharing!

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Rebecca Atkins
8/19/2016 12:12:38 pm

Thanks! I'd love to see a pic when you have it up :)

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Lisa Hansen
12/5/2016 09:15:47 am

How big are these? Thanks.

K-12 School Counselor
Chester, SD

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Rebecca Atkins
12/5/2016 10:22:33 am

Hi Lisa, to give you a scale- the blue pages are printed on 8.5x11 cardstock. The white circles are cut out of a single 8.5x11 page.

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Melissa Ferguson link
3/10/2017 06:16:32 pm

I LOVE this resource!!! I have it up in my office and it is such a great tool to get students talking and taking ownership of the things that they are doing!!! Thank you so much for creating it :)

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